It’s 3 a.m. and you’ve googled “is this normal” twice already.
I’ve been that mother, twice. These twelve chapters are what I’d tell you if I were sitting beside you right now.
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Everyone has advice for the first 90 days. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Enjoy every moment. It goes so fast.
What no one mentions is the afternoon you realize you haven’t finished a thought in days. The guilt that follows you no matter how you feed. The quiet loneliness of a house full of visitors who all came to see the baby.
I lived it twice. So I wrote it down, chapter by chapter, for the mother reading this at 3 a.m.
Rarely talked about
You can love your baby completely and still miss the woman you were last spring. You can get to dinnertime without knowing what day it is. And when the baby finally falls asleep, you’ll probably spend those ten minutes folding tiny clothes instead of resting. None of it means you’re doing it wrong. It just means you’re in the middle of it.
One payment. Twelve chapters and four bonuses, with you from the first night to day 90.
See what’s included — $27 ➤There’s the baby. And then there’s everything that changes around the baby.
The feeding schedule. The interrupted nights. The shower that keeps getting postponed. The offers of help that are hard to answer. BESIDE YOU was written for that part of early motherhood too.
When someone asks if you’re alright
Your mother, your partner, your older child — someone looks at you and asks how you’re doing. It’s an easy question to answer with “fine”. Chapter one is about the part that’s harder to put into words.
When the hours of sleep don’t add up
Weeks of broken sleep stack differently than one bad night, and around week five or six a lot of mothers notice it. Chapter five is about that stretch — what to expect from it, and how to build a week around it.
The 3am hours
Checking the monitor. Counting the hours. Waiting for morning. The 3am Card Deck was made for exactly these hours — one line per card, nothing to finish.
I didn’t write this because
I mastered motherhood.
I had my first daughter at 29. I tried for a natural birth and ended up in a C-section, and I came out of that room so wrung out that I missed my own first feeding — the moment I’d waited nine months for. That first night she wouldn’t latch, and cried, and cried. A nurse finally took her to another room so my husband and I could sleep for the first time since labor. I felt relief, and right behind it, guilt.
What actually helped wasn’t willpower. It was my husband and my mother-in-law — cooking, bathing her when I couldn’t. I’m not an expert with a title. I’m a mother who’s been there, and when something needs a professional, I say so plainly. This is closer to what I’d tell you on your kitchen floor at 2am, because neither of us could sleep anyway.
It is the book I wish someone had handed me.
A woman has to let go of who she was so a mother can be born — one who does her best with whatever she has that day.
Needing a village isn’t failure.
Three lines from the book
Ninety days is not a deadline.
Help with dishes and diapers is real help. But it doesn’t touch the part that’s happening inside you.
You are not being graded.
Four bonuses, for when
reading isn’t possible
Included with BESIDE YOU, because some nights a whole chapter is more than you have in you.
The 3am Card Deck
Twenty printable cards, one line each, pulled from every “what I wish I’d heard” moment in the book. Keep them by the bed for the nights you need one sentence, not a chapter.
The Village Builder Worksheet
Turns “let me know if you need anything” into a request someone can actually act on. A fill-in template, three messages ready to send, and space for your own people.
The Partner Conversation Guide
A short, non-confrontational script built around Chapter 7 — meant to be read together, out loud, one question at a time. Includes the one rule that keeps it from becoming a fight.
Day 90 Check-In
A one-page private reflection. Fill it in now, then answer the same questions again at six months and at one year.
Is this guide for you?
This is you…
You’re in the right place if —
Close this page if…
This is not your guide if —
Twelve chapters, four bonuses, one payment
No subscription, no upsells. The file is yours to keep, and any updated edition is sent to you free.
- All twelve chapters, in three parts — Days 1–14, Weeks 3–8, Weeks 9–13
- A gentle checklist at the end of every chapter
- “Try this today” and a reflection question in each one
- The 3am Card Deck — twenty printable cards
- The Village Builder Worksheet
- The Partner Conversation Guide
- Day 90 Check-In
- A closing letter
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Take the quiz:
Which season
are you in?
Four questions, about a minute. At the end you get the chapter to open first — and five free 3am cards, printable, one line each, sent to your inbox. (The full deck of twenty comes with the guide.)
Question 1 of 4
How old is your baby?
Before you decide
Questions mothers ask
Tap any question to open it. If yours isn’t here, write to me — I answer every email myself.
Who is BESIDE YOU for?
Mothers in the first ninety days. It’s built around that window in three parts — Days 1–14, Weeks 3–8, Weeks 9–13 — so whatever week you’re in, there’s a chapter written for it.
How will I receive it?
Through Payhip, right after checkout. You’ll get an email with the download link within a few minutes. If it hasn’t arrived in an hour, check your spam folder and then write to me.
Can I read it on my phone?
Yes — it’s a PDF, and it was written to be read one-handed on a phone, in the dark, while feeding.
What’s the refund policy?
Thirty days. Email me and you get the full amount back, no explanation required. I answer refund emails within two business days.
Do I have to read it in order?
No. Read it in order, or skip to the chapter that matches tonight. Put it down mid-sentence when the baby wakes up and come back three days later — that’s not failing to finish a book, that’s just this season.
Is this a medical or mental-health guide?
No. BESIDE YOU is an educational and reflective companion for early motherhood. It doesn’t diagnose or treat anything, and it doesn’t replace care from a qualified professional. If you have concerns about your health or emotional wellbeing, please speak with a qualified healthcare professional — and where something belongs with your provider, the book says so plainly and gives you words to use.
Is it only for first-time mothers?
No. It was written after my own first ninety days, but almost nothing in it is about it being your first — the nights, the feeding, the asking for help are the same the second time, with less room to fall apart.
What if I use formula?
Then you’re in good company here. Breast, bottle, formula, some combination stitched together out of necessity — the feeding chapter isn’t grading you, and it says exactly that.
What exactly is included?
Twelve chapters, each with a gentle checklist, a “Try this today” and a reflection question. Plus four bonuses: the 3am Card Deck, the Village Builder Worksheet, the Partner Conversation Guide and the Day 90 Check-In.